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Ovulation predictor kits are a great way for women to determine exactly when, during their cycle, they are ovulating helping to take some of the guess work out of determining when they are most likely to conceive.  The kits are also a good way for doctors and patients to determine if a woman is not ovulating resulting in a potential fertility problem.

For women planning a pregnancy and trying to conceive one of the big challenges is timing, knowing exactly when that little egg drops.  There are several ways to go about determining when you will ovulate including taking your basal body temperature and determining the consistency of your cervical mucus, however, those often still leave room for error, still leave questions.  Ovulation predictor kits take a lot of the guess work out of it and provide women with an easy method to figuring out when they are ovulating.  If a couple is having difficulty conceiving their doctor will often recommend the use of an ovulation predictor kit as the first step in determining if there are any fertility issues preventing pregnancy.

Ovulation predictor kits are easy to use and are very similar to the home pregnancy tests available on the market.  In fact, many of the same companies that produce home pregnancy tests also produce home ovulation predictor kits as well.  The kits use urine to test for LH hormones (luteinizing hormone) in your system.  LH hormones are released within 24-48 hours of ovulation.  If you get a positive result on an ovulation predictor then it is safe to assume you will be ovulating some time in the next 24 to 48 hours.  Those 24-48 hours before ovulation is the most fertile time in your cycle and the time when conception is most likely to occur.

Each ovulation predictor kit will come with its own set of instructions and since each test may vary slightly be sure to read through the directions carefully before taking the test.  If you are unsure on how to use an ovulation predictor kit or if one would be useful to you as you are trying to conceive be sure to talk to your doctor.

Making the decision to have your first child is a huge deal.  A lot goes into that decision.  Afterall, you are deciding to completely change the dynamic of your relationship forever, you will no longer be just a couple you will be a family.  Conceiving your first child means you are taking on the responsibility of caring for another human life and putting their needs, wants and desires before your own.  It is a big deal.  My husband and I waited to start our family until we hit our 30s because we wanted to spend time just being a couple, we wanted to be financially stable and we wanted to be in a place where it was possible for me to stay home with our child. But when we finally took the plunge it felt right, we were ready (well as ready as you can be).

Lately we have begun talking about expanding our family, trying for #2.  The talk has been pretty limited so far, just a few little conversations here and there.  No concrete decisions yet.  I’ve discovered something through these conversations though, deciding to try for #2 may actually be a bigger decision for me than the first was.  With Maya I just knew I was ready every part of me was screaming that it was time, this time I feel like I have more to think about and the signs are quite so obvious.

We want to have more kids.  I’ve always pictured myself with 2.  However, I’m having trouble actually saying “ok, let’s do it.” (and my husband is too).  So much will change when we expand our family.  I used to think that once you had the first the giant changes were over and having more wouldn’t be that big a deal.  I was wrong.  There are so many things standing between me and making the decision to go for #2.  Like:

How will my relationship with Maya change and am I ready for it to change?  I love the way things are now and I don’t want my relationship with her to change.

Can we manage two kids in our condo or should we buy a house first?  I don’t think we have the room we would need but I can’t say that I want to put it off just for a house.

How will we manage two kids?  Traveling, shopping, trips to the zoo, naptimes and bedtimes, it all becomes more complicated with two, am I ready for that?

Will they be the right number of years apart?  I don’t want them too close together or too far apart.

So many little things swirling around in my head, so many questions, so many “what ifs”.  Who knew it would be such a hard decision.  I think the biggest thing standing in the way is Maya.  I want her to have a brother or a sister, both my husband and I loved having siblings growing up.  However, I worry about how bringing a new baby into our life will turn her world upside down.  I think (I know) she would love the baby and would be an awesome big sister so I don’t know why I let it bother me so much.

Maybe, we just need to stop thinking about it so much and just go for it.  Who knows.  We’ll talk some more, figure a few things out and decide from there.  Any tips, pointers, suggestions or opinions are welcome (obviously we could use a little help from the pros on this one).

When you are trying to conceive it can be hard to weed through all of the advice you may receive to find the truth.  Between reading books, researching online, and getting tips from friends and family you will find you have a mountain of tips, tricks and techniques running through your head.  Trying to conceive a child can be an exciting (and fun 😉 ) time for you and your spouse.  Everyone would love for it to happen that first magical time you try, but it doesn’t always work that way in the real world.  Often times you have to try and try again before becoming pregnant.

There are a few misconceptions out there about trying to conceive.  Here’s a quick look at a few of the myths out there and the truths behind them.

Myth #1: It is easy to get pregnant.

Truth: For many couples it is not easy to get pregnant.  There is only a 25% chance of becoming pregnant during any given menstrual cycle.  Don’t get upset if it doesn’t happen the first try, it may take a little while.

Myth #2: Having too much sex could hurt your chances of conceiving.

Truth: Unless your husband has been diagnosed with a low sperm count it doesn’t matter how often you have sex, it won’t impact your chances of conceiving.

Myth #3: The best time to try to conceive is the day you ovulate.

Truth: You are actually more fertile during the five days preceding ovulation.  Use an ovulation kit to predict the day, then aim to have sex at least every other day for the five days leading up to your ovulation day.

Myth #4: Using lubrication makes it harder to get pregnant.

Truth: Some studies suggest that lubricants can slow a man’s sperm down, however, most couples shouldn’t worry about it.  If you are having fertility issues your doctor may recommend either not using lubricant or using Pre-Seed, a brand that doesn’t affect sperm.

Myth #5: You can get pregnant as soon as you stop using birth control.

Truth: While this is true for contraceptives such as condoms it is not necessarily true for hormone based contraceptives such as the pill or patch.  While there is a chance of becoming pregnant as soon as you stop using your birth control it does take a few months for your cycle to return to normal and you may not ovulate during this time.

And those are just a few of the myths floating around out there.  Remember that most couples, about 80%, conceive within the first year of trying.  So, although it may not happen in the first couple of tries it will happen eventually.  If you do not become pregnant after one full year of trying to conceive you should talk to your doctor about possible fertility issues.