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14 years ago today I married my best friend, my true love. We were two extremely young kids adults with hearts full of love and dreams about the future. We didn’t know what the future held for us. We didn’t know where the road we were starting out on led. What we did know was that we loved each other and no matter where we were headed or what obstacles laid in our way we’d be okay because we had each other.

If I could go back to October 12, 1998 and whisper in the ear of my young self I would tell myself that 14 years later I’d still be totally in love with the man I’m about to marry and we would have two gorgeous little girls and an incredible life. I would tell myself that life was going to turn out even better than I could imagine and that life was going to be full of adventure and happiness and most of all love.

Lorne I love you. I love the incredible life we have built together and the family we have become. May the future be as great as the last 14 years have been. Happy Anniversary babe!

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(photo courtesy of Chinnici Photography, Erin you rock!)

On this day, 12 years ago, I married my high school sweetheart, the love of my life, my soulmate.

We were just two goofy young kids, in love, ready to start our lives together. We stood on the doorstep of adulthood together.

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Ours is a traditional girl meets boy, girl falls in love with boy, boy eventually falls in love with girl and boy and girl live happily ever after, love story. A story I’m proud and happy and grateful to be apart of every single day.

19 years ago I met a boy.  He was cute and smart and sweet and I knew from the moment I met him that we were destined to be more than friends.  But, for quite sometime, I loved that boy from afar hoping he would one day return my affections, but too shy and embarrassed to do anything about it. Over the next couple of years we got to know each other a little better through our mutual friends.  We were part of the same group of friends and found ourselves hanging out more and more.  Then one day I discovered that the boy I had adored from afar for so long now felt the same for me.  We started dating and the rest, is as they say, history.

Over four years after that fateful day me and that boy found ourselves standing together at the alter, exchanging vows and rings.  12 years later we are still very much in love.  That boy that I met all those years ago in the hallway at school is now my husband, the father of my child, the man I am spending my forever with.  That younger more naive me was right, she and that boy were destined to be more, much more.

Happy Anniversary, Babe! Here’s to many, many more wonderful years together.

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11 years ago today my husband and I got married in a very small ceremony, in front of his parents and brothers and my mum.  It was beautiful, romantic and perfect because I was marrying my best friend, my one true love.

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It is amazing what happens over the span of 11 years.  The changes that take place.  The love that grows and changes.  The memories we build together.  The challenges we face and concur.  I’m glad that I’ve got to spend the last 11 years married to my best friend and can’t wait for what the years ahead of us bring.

I love you babe :)

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Between juggling your job, raising a family, tackling household responsibilities and finding a few minutes for yourself at the end of the day your marriage can sometimes become a little neglected and as a result your spouse is probably feeling a little neglected too.  It happens to all of us.  Suddenly you wake up one morning and realize it has been weeks since you sat down and really spent time with your spouse.  It is easy to let time get away from you if you don’t consciously decide to make your marriage a priority.

So, what can you do to make your marriage a priority?  Are there things you can do even when you feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day already?  Sure there are things you can do.  If you set your mind to making your marriage an important part of each day you will find the time.

Here are a few suggestions;

  • Set time aside each day to chat with your spouse.  Talk about your day, troubles you’ve encountered, great things that happened, the kids, your job, everything.  After the kids go to bed is a great time for this chat (a little mini date!)
  • Remember to say “I Love You” on a regular basis and show it with affectionate hugs and kisses as you pass each other throughout your day.  Your spouse knows it but it is always nice to hear.
  • Don’t assume your marriage can function on autopilot just because it was great before the kids came along.  Every marriage takes an investment of time and energy.
  • Make “date nights” a priority.  It doesn’t mean you have to go out on an elaborate date, or even leave the house for that matter.  Just set some time aside to do something you both enjoy, watch a movie, play a game, go out to eat, etc.  This might be a weekly or a monthly thing, whatever works well for you.
  • Look for ways to show your spouse you love them with “the little things”.  Be it a note in their lunch, a quick email part way through the day, picking up something they love for dinner.

The key to making your marriage a priority is to consciously make the decision to pay more attention to your spouse and put in the investment necessary for your marriage to thrive.

What do you and your spouse do to make your marriage an important part of your everyday life?  How has having a family affected your marriage?

When you are trying to conceive it can be hard to weed through all of the advice you may receive to find the truth.  Between reading books, researching online, and getting tips from friends and family you will find you have a mountain of tips, tricks and techniques running through your head.  Trying to conceive a child can be an exciting (and fun 😉 ) time for you and your spouse.  Everyone would love for it to happen that first magical time you try, but it doesn’t always work that way in the real world.  Often times you have to try and try again before becoming pregnant.

There are a few misconceptions out there about trying to conceive.  Here’s a quick look at a few of the myths out there and the truths behind them.

Myth #1: It is easy to get pregnant.

Truth: For many couples it is not easy to get pregnant.  There is only a 25% chance of becoming pregnant during any given menstrual cycle.  Don’t get upset if it doesn’t happen the first try, it may take a little while.

Myth #2: Having too much sex could hurt your chances of conceiving.

Truth: Unless your husband has been diagnosed with a low sperm count it doesn’t matter how often you have sex, it won’t impact your chances of conceiving.

Myth #3: The best time to try to conceive is the day you ovulate.

Truth: You are actually more fertile during the five days preceding ovulation.  Use an ovulation kit to predict the day, then aim to have sex at least every other day for the five days leading up to your ovulation day.

Myth #4: Using lubrication makes it harder to get pregnant.

Truth: Some studies suggest that lubricants can slow a man’s sperm down, however, most couples shouldn’t worry about it.  If you are having fertility issues your doctor may recommend either not using lubricant or using Pre-Seed, a brand that doesn’t affect sperm.

Myth #5: You can get pregnant as soon as you stop using birth control.

Truth: While this is true for contraceptives such as condoms it is not necessarily true for hormone based contraceptives such as the pill or patch.  While there is a chance of becoming pregnant as soon as you stop using your birth control it does take a few months for your cycle to return to normal and you may not ovulate during this time.

And those are just a few of the myths floating around out there.  Remember that most couples, about 80%, conceive within the first year of trying.  So, although it may not happen in the first couple of tries it will happen eventually.  If you do not become pregnant after one full year of trying to conceive you should talk to your doctor about possible fertility issues.