Fatherhood

With summer in full swing, temperatures rising on a daily basis and lazy no-school, play-filled fun filling our days, thoughts of camping have been on our minds. We’ve been busy doing a lot of stuff around the house lately so our weekends have been pretty busy, too busy for a camping trip. Friday afternoon we were hanging out in the backyard. Lorne was home early from work to spend a little extra time with his girls in advance of a 2 week long business trip. Lorne and Maya got talking about camping and the next thing I knew plans were being made for a grand Backyard Campout. Maya was super excited!

After dinner the prep work began. The tent was set up, beds were made and Maya even made a little “fire” complete with camp chairs for her and her Dad :)

I was a bit skeptical as to whether Maya would be able to fall asleep and stay asleep outside as she scares easily, but she did awesome. Lorne and I sat in the backyard while she fell asleep. It took her longer than it does in her own bed, it was still light out so I wasn’t surprised by that. But, once she finally passed out she was out for the night. It was a hot night so I don’t think either of them had a great sleep and Lorne’s wake up call came bright and early once the sun was up, but all in all they had a good time.

I foresee a few more backyard camps this summer.

 

On this day, 12 years ago, I married my high school sweetheart, the love of my life, my soulmate.

We were just two goofy young kids, in love, ready to start our lives together. We stood on the doorstep of adulthood together.

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Ours is a traditional girl meets boy, girl falls in love with boy, boy eventually falls in love with girl and boy and girl live happily ever after, love story. A story I’m proud and happy and grateful to be apart of every single day.

19 years ago I met a boy.  He was cute and smart and sweet and I knew from the moment I met him that we were destined to be more than friends.  But, for quite sometime, I loved that boy from afar hoping he would one day return my affections, but too shy and embarrassed to do anything about it. Over the next couple of years we got to know each other a little better through our mutual friends.  We were part of the same group of friends and found ourselves hanging out more and more.  Then one day I discovered that the boy I had adored from afar for so long now felt the same for me.  We started dating and the rest, is as they say, history.

Over four years after that fateful day me and that boy found ourselves standing together at the alter, exchanging vows and rings.  12 years later we are still very much in love.  That boy that I met all those years ago in the hallway at school is now my husband, the father of my child, the man I am spending my forever with.  That younger more naive me was right, she and that boy were destined to be more, much more.

Happy Anniversary, Babe! Here’s to many, many more wonderful years together.

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Maya is at the age where she just wants to be part of the action and help out all the time.  It doesn’t really matter what we are doing, putting groceries away, cleaning the bathroom, watering the garden, or painting, she wants to help.  Sometimes it’s easy to appease her and let her help out, other times it is quite a challenge finding a small task she can do.  It is usually easier for her to help me out when I’m doing my chores, but it isn’t always as easy for Lorne to find a way for her to help him with his bigger, Mr. Fix-it tasks.  Giving her a cloth to use to help clean the bathroom is a lot easier (and safer) than giving her a screwdriver to help hang a new light fixture :)

She delights in those times when Lorne is tackling a project that she can help with.  Just before we moved out of our condo he was doing a few Mr. Fix-it jobs around the condo to get it ready for the new owners.  One day after work he was painting the door frame of the back door.  Immediately, upon seeing that Daddy was doing some work and clearly needed help, Maya offered up her assistance.  Lorne gave her a paint brush and let her have at it.  She did a pretty good job helping him paint the door frame.  And boy was she proud of herself for being such a good daddy‘s little helper.

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Excuse the no shirt but children and non-washable paint do not make a great match :)

I wanted to take a moment today to wish all the wonderful fathers out there a very Happy Father’s Day.  I hope you have a wonderful day hanging out with your families.  Remember how important you are each and every day and how loved you are by your children.

Happy Father’s Day!!

Between juggling your job, raising a family, tackling household responsibilities and finding a few minutes for yourself at the end of the day your marriage can sometimes become a little neglected and as a result your spouse is probably feeling a little neglected too.  It happens to all of us.  Suddenly you wake up one morning and realize it has been weeks since you sat down and really spent time with your spouse.  It is easy to let time get away from you if you don’t consciously decide to make your marriage a priority.

So, what can you do to make your marriage a priority?  Are there things you can do even when you feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day already?  Sure there are things you can do.  If you set your mind to making your marriage an important part of each day you will find the time.

Here are a few suggestions;

  • Set time aside each day to chat with your spouse.  Talk about your day, troubles you’ve encountered, great things that happened, the kids, your job, everything.  After the kids go to bed is a great time for this chat (a little mini date!)
  • Remember to say “I Love You” on a regular basis and show it with affectionate hugs and kisses as you pass each other throughout your day.  Your spouse knows it but it is always nice to hear.
  • Don’t assume your marriage can function on autopilot just because it was great before the kids came along.  Every marriage takes an investment of time and energy.
  • Make “date nights” a priority.  It doesn’t mean you have to go out on an elaborate date, or even leave the house for that matter.  Just set some time aside to do something you both enjoy, watch a movie, play a game, go out to eat, etc.  This might be a weekly or a monthly thing, whatever works well for you.
  • Look for ways to show your spouse you love them with “the little things”.  Be it a note in their lunch, a quick email part way through the day, picking up something they love for dinner.

The key to making your marriage a priority is to consciously make the decision to pay more attention to your spouse and put in the investment necessary for your marriage to thrive.

What do you and your spouse do to make your marriage an important part of your everyday life?  How has having a family affected your marriage?