Comments on: 11 Years: A Sad Anniversary

By: The Tough Questions | Let’s Talk Babies

The Tough Questions | Let’s Talk Babies — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 11:14:02 +0000

[...] stalled as I tried to come up with a 4 year old friendly answer, because the real answer is too much for me to swallow most days, let alone a 4 year old. I simply said that my dad wasn’t [...]

By: Cara

Cara — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:23:47 +0000

Oh Lisa. I was thinking of you today & came to re-read this. You’re on my mind & I wish I had words that could provide some sort of comfort to you.
Lots of love, sweet lady.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 01:32:40 +0000

Hi Lisa, I am so very sorry for everything you have been going through. I wish with all my heart that I could take your pain away.
I do know that the patients I’ve had throughout the years who were alcoholic, deep down were usually kind and gentle people who for different reasons had trouble coping with life.
I believe truly that your Dad loved you. And now he knows you love him too.
Much love to you, Cathy

By: Lamb

Lamb — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:52:54 +0000

Thank you for sharing this. I am sorry for your loss.

By: Max

Max — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:34:00 +0000

Dear Lisa,
I wish you peace.
I think your dad and all of us are like the prodigal son..we are totally loved and loving in our true reality.It is here when we feel apart from our real home and Source that we hurt inside and turn to abuse of ourselves and others.Try to remember the love between your dad and you and all of us is kept whole and strong by our Creator who would have it no other way in Reality.The prodigal son was welcomed home and so is your Dad and all of us with him.We are alive and safe and loved beyond words forever.
Much Love to You and all those affected by the sad events you described. Max

By: nic @mybottlesup

nic @mybottlesup — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:08:31 +0000

oh my friend… my beautiful friend. i’m so sorry for your continued pain and grief. depression is… fuck, i don’t even know… there’s not an adjective that quite expresses how all-encompassing it can be.

i’m sorry my love. very very sorry.

By: avasmommy

avasmommy — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:08:02 +0000

Oh honey. You know my story with my dad. Different circumstances, but the loss is the same.

I will bet you anything, that your dad knew you loved him. I bet he understood more than you know.

I’m sorry you are left with all the what if’s. They can be hard to live with.

((Hugs))

By: Kel

Kel — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 17:03:51 +0000

I like Becky could not read this without tearing up. I lost my dad at 20 but for a different reason, my father was in his 80′s when he passed. I have learned things about my father now that he has passed that have brought mixed emotions.

Depression is a tricky disease. I know this first hand as I suffer it myself. You cannot blame yourself for his actions, I know it’s hard.

And above all I can understand how much you miss him, wish he knew your daughter (I have 2 my dad never met) and how you just wish sometimes you knew he was there.

Ah, now I am all teary again. And I hope I haven’t said anything to upset you further. *hugs* My thoughts with you and your family.

By: Brittany at Mommy Words

Brittany at Mommy Words — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 16:54:58 +0000

I am so sorry you are having such a difficukt day. I am sure that now your father’s soul is at peace and he knows now that you love him. What a terrible loss you suffered.

I have a very strained relationship with my father but if anything happened I know I would be devastated.

Hugs to you! I hope that you find something to smil about today!

By: Becky @TheRealBecks

Becky @TheRealBecks — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 15:22:05 +0000

i couldn’t read this w/o tearing up. i know how you feel. my dad died 2 1/2 years ago. he also was an alcoholic. i regret a LOT of the things i did /said to him out of anger for his addiction. and i regret not taking the time out to tell him i still love him anyway. i mean, i did a few times but not enough. and now he’s gone. i’ve blogged about my dad a few times. it helps. lots of hugs to you.