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They grow up so fast.

Last night I weaned Maya from her last nursing session.  She had been down to just nursing before bed for a couple of months now.  It had been part of her bedtime routine for so long (her whole life!) that I was a little scared to stop just in case my perfect little sleeper became a not so perfect sleeper as a result. Luckily I think it will all work out ok :)

Deciding to wean her was not a decision I was able to make easily.  A couple of weeks ago I started to feel like I was ready to be done breastfeeding.  Maya was only nursing for about 10 minutes max before bed but often spent the whole time fidgeting and playing.  It was a nice way for her to wind down for the night but I didn’t feel like she needed it anymore.  When I put her in her crib after nursing her she is wide awake and has been falling asleep on her own at bedtime and naptime for months now.  The hard part about taking the plunge was that I knew she still enjoyed that time at the end of the day, and so did I.  Breastfeeding has always been our quiet time together, our “just the two of us” time.  I’ll miss that.

So, yesterday I put on a regular bra (first time in almost 20 months!) when I got dress in the morning and said “Ok, today is the day.”  I took Maya to the book store and we picked out a new bedtime book.  When the time came I had her kiss the kitties and Daddy goodnight like usual and we went into her bedroom.  She asked to nurse by signing and I said “No, honey.  Mommy’s milk is all gone.  Instead you can have some of this milk (I gave her a small cup of milk) and we are going to read your new story.”  We sat down together in our regular chair and read the story.  She took a couple of sips of the milk but wasn’t all that interested (she isn’t a big milk drinker).  She loved the story.  When I was done reading she asked again to nurse and I explained again that “mommy’s milk” was all gone, she was ok with that.  I gave her an extra big hug and kiss and laid her down in her crib.  She didn’t cry at all, she just talked to her stuffed animals for a few minutes and then fell right to sleep.  However, I almost cried.  I’m sure if my husband hadn’t been sitting in the other room I might have.  I was definitely ready to be done, but at the same time it sort of felt like it officially made her no longer a baby.  Now, I know that we still might have a few rough nights ahead where she won’t be quite so understanding, but I’m thankful for an easy first night and so proud of her.

I am so proud of myself for making it 19 months (almost 20 actually).  When I was pregnant I knew I wanted to nurse at least 12 months and then wean slowly from there.  That is exactly what I did.  After a little bit of a rough start we both got the hang of it and it was a wonderful experience.  My breastfeeding experience wasn’t without it’s challenges, including a clogged milk duct I could have done without, but it was a wonderful experience.

My hope with sharing my own breastfeeding stories here is that I will inspire women who can breastfeed to give it a try.  I hope that by reading my story and learning from my experiences someone is able to get over a breastfeeding hurdle and stick with it.

Here’s to 19 months (+) of successful breastfeeding.

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9 Responses to Here’s to 19 Months of Successful Breastfeeding

  • Sara says:

    20 months of breastfeeding is phenomenal! You’re a rock star and an inspiration to me to keep going!

  • Thanks so much Sara. I’m glad I’ve inspired to keep going :)

  • Robyn Dumontet-Yaxley says:

    Breasting for me (and my daughter Audrey) has been one of the most difficult things I ever did.
    Having large breasts was my first problem area, coupled with flat nipples didn’t help. Then if that was not enough, all the pumping I did to keep up my milk supply, (while I sought out help from specialist to get little Audrey to latch on)created the next problem…Overactive letdown reflex. In other words the milk came so fast it almost made her drown her every time she wanted to nurse. So she just decided to stop nursing. Then came all the engorgement.
    Well when everyone else said to stop breast feeding, I had to just go to breast feeding groups for support. The whole thing almost split my marriage up.
    As Audrey grew older I watched video’s of you and your daughter for strength to go on, when all of society continued to give me dirty looks. Thinking and forgetting that the breast was made for the child not for the man!
    You gave me hope when I was at my end, when I wanted to quit. So thank you for posting your videos so openly for all to see.
    My daughter will be 21 months in 9 days. she is 24lbs. She is healty and beautiful.
    She eats all foods, and nurses twices a day, usually in the afternoon and and bedtime. Audrey shows no signs of stopping, and the day she is ready to stop, is the day I am ready to stop!
    thank you Sara and baby Maya
    Robyn and baby Audrey

  • Robyn,

    I’m glad you were able to push through and successful breastfeed. It is a wonderful experience and so worth it for both mom and baby. Congrats on making it this far, you have done a wonderful thing for your daughter. Best of luck in the future.

  • Melanie Messer says:

    Wow. I just found you by googling about some breastfeeding issues that I’ve been having. We’re just going into month three and like the woman who replied and mentioned that she had large breasts and numerous challenges, I have had similar experiences. There have been days while I”ve been doing this that I have sat down and cried because I want so much to feed my baby my milk, but there have been unbelievable challenges that I had not anticipated. When we have a rough day or I experience sore nipples or some other issue, I tell myself, “This too shall pass” and tomorrow we will deal with this better than today and so far it seems to work. I am also becoming increasingly aware that even other women in our society sometimes discourage us from doing what should be natural for our children and it’s so great to see your blog in that sense. I’m about to go back to work in a couple of weeks and I’m definitely going to continue to read your blog and others like it so that I continue to believe that I can keep on doing this for my son, Hudson. Thanks for your honesty! It’s such an encouragement.

  • Melanie,

    Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experiences. I really appreciate the feedback and love hearing about other success stories. I love your one day at a time approach, I think it is the best way to approach breastfeeding. I wish you the all best in your return to work, I know you will be successful if you continue the way you have so far. It will be challenging at times, but it so worth it.

  • Robyn Dumontet-Yaxley says:

    First, let me please apoligise to you Lisa for calling you “Sara” in post 3 above as I was reading the prior post. Well another month and a bit has past, and my baby is now a big girl. lol
    22 months and still breastfeeding.
    I did good!! Yet Audrey shows no signs of ever stoping. My boobs hurt. How many woman out there can honestly say they know what it is like for a child to nurse at this age, so happily and, eagerly. She is not biting. Just sucks really hard. I can still hear and see her swallowing. However it does not pour out as fast as a suckie cup. Any real advice? I don’t want to hear from people who haven’t breast fed. They say… “just say no”. Well I think that is cruel. I believe our breast were ment for breastfeeding not mens\womens pleasure.
    Thanks and happy holidays
    Robyn and big girl Audrey

  • Robyn,

    Congrats on 22 months of successful breastfeeding. When I stopped at 19 months it was partly because of the pain and discomfort. I was ready to move on to the next part of our relationship. My advice to you would be to perhaps cut out a few nursing sessions to give your breasts some time to rest between feedings. Happy Holidays to you and congrats again on making it this far.

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