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There is no magic age when children become old enough, mature enough, or responsible enough to be left home alone while Mom and Dad go out. Most states do not set a minimum age limit on when children can legally be left home alone. In fact only four states, including Oregon, Maryland, Illinois and Georgia, set a minimum age limit (a few others make recommendations). Here is a complete list by state.
There is a general consensus out there among professionals that children under the age of 10 lack the degree of responsibility and the maturity to be left home alone, and the National SAFEKIDS campaign recommends that children be at least 12 before they are allowed to stay home unattended. When it comes right down to it you need to consider your child and your family circumstances before deciding if your child is ready to stay home alone. One child may be ready at 10 while another won’t even seem ready at 13 or 14.
A few things to consider when deciding whether your child is ready of not include:
- Does your child want to be left home alone? If your child shows no interest in being left home alone, and would prefer that someone be there with him or her than he or she probably isn’t ready yet.
- Is your child physically, mentally and emotionally ready to take care of him or herself? Obviously, if your child has any developmental delays you may need to consider waiting until he or she is much older. Some children also mature much slower than others and won’t necessarily be capable of taking care of themselves yet.
- Does your child, in general, make good decisions and obey the rules and boundaries you establish? A child who has exhibited an inability to obey rules or shows signs of poor decision making should probably not be left home alone.
- Is your house safe? Things to consider are all the appropriate child-safety features on dangerous items including ovens, electrical outlets, medications, dangerous cleaning solutions, guns, etc.
- Does your child know how to contact you or the authorities in case of an emergency? Before you even consider leaving your child home alone you will need to go over all the necessary contact information, where to find it, how to use it, etc.
Once you have decided that your child is indeed ready to be left home alone it is a good idea to take a few steps to help ensure their time alone is a success. You want them to be equipped with everything necessary to help keep them safe, and you want to make sure that they are capable of being home alone.
Before your first “big” outing with your child left home alone it is probably a good idea to:
- Take a few trial runs. Go on a couple of quick trips, start out with only 10-15 minute trips and increase the duration over a few outings. This will allow you a chance to see how your child does before they are left alone for an extended period of time.
- Role play a few different scenarios to help teach your child what to different in different situations and to allow yourself the chance to see how your child will handle him or herself.
- Establish a firm set of rules. Make sure your child understands each of the rules. Consider posting the rules where your child can easily see them. Seeing the list of rules may help your child stick with the rules!
- Make sure all important contact numbers are clearly posted where your child can find them and make sure your child understands and is capable of using the phone to call someone if needed.
No matter how many times your practice or how confident you are that your child is ready to be left home alone it will always be a bit nerve wracking the first time. If you have done everything you can to teach your child about being home alone, made sure the house is safe, and know that your child is mature enough to handle it than everything should go just fine.
If you aren’t sure if your child is ready or you have questions about leaving your child home alone consider talking to your child’s pediatrician or even their teacher. Other parents who have older children can be great resources as well.
Finding out you can now eat for two may seem like a free ticket to dive right into all those foods you have been avoiding to benefit your waistline. However, like everything else with pregnancy what you eat requires some extra thought. A healthy pregnancy is important to all of us and the food choices you make play a big role in a healthy pregnancy. Both you and your growing baby will benefit from a healthy diet during pregnancy.
There are a few things that you should avoid during pregnancy as they are harmful to both you and your baby. Be sure to talk to your doctor early in your pregnancy about your eating habits and what you should be avoiding based on your specific pregnancy.
Eating for Two: The Don’ts:
- Don’t drink alcohol during pregnancy. No amount of alcohol has been deemed safe during pregnancy.
- Don’t eat raw fish or meat.
- Don’t overdo it on the caffeine, try to keep it under 2 cups a day. Most doctors will advise that it is OK to drink caffeine in moderations during pregnancy, however, you should make sure it is OK for you.
- Don’t drink herbal tea. There have not been any studies done on the effects of herbs on the growing fetus. Also, some herbs consumed in large doses have been found to cause contractions and may lead to miscarriage.
- Don’t take any nutritional supplements without first consulting your doctor.
- Don’t eat fish high in mercury, including: swordfish, shark, king mackerel and some tuna.
- Don’t drink unpasteurized milk or eat cheese made with unpasteurized milk, including: brie, feta, blue cheese or camembert.
- Avoid cold cut meats as they can carry food born illnesses.
Early in your pregnancy your doctor will likely have a conversation with you about all the things you need to avoid during your pregnancy. If he or she does not bring it up be sure to ask. The more you know the easier it will be to make wise food choices. See my recent article on The Do’s of pregnancy eating for all the good things you can eat during pregnancy 
Finding out you are pregnant and can now “eat for two” may sending you flying to the cupboard to eat a few extra cookies or enjoy that bag of chips you have been avoiding, or send you out the door to McDonald’s for a Big Mac and extra large fries! However, you may want to give your food choices a little more thought. Although you are eating for two it is important to make healthy food choices during pregnancy. A pregnancy that includes a healthy diet is a benefit to both mother and baby.
Healthy eating habits developed during pregnancy mean it will probably be easier for you to lose the baby weight after your little one arrives. You are also less likely to gain too much weight during pregnancy, which can lead to complications. Plus, that growing life inside of you needs all those good nutrients to grow big and strong.
Eating for Two Do’s:
- Eat a variety of foods at meal and snack times including: fruits, vegetables, low-fat dairy, lean proteins, and whole grains.
- Take a daily prenatal vitamin. Talk to your doctor about which one he or she recommends for you.
- Watch your calorie intake. It is recommended that pregnant women consume an additional 300 calories per day during pregnancy.
- Limit the portion size and amount of high fat foods and sweets you consume. Indulge a little but be mindful of how much you are eating.
- Add a little extra fiber to your diet to help prevent constipation (a common problem during pregnancy).
- Drink plenty of fluids (especially water). It is very important to stay hydrated.
Be sure to talk to your doctor about any special needs you may have with your pregnancy diet. He or she will be able to advice you on what foods are OK for you to eat, how much weight you should gain during pregnancy, and any other special instructions.
One thing I did during my pregnancy was to make sure I had plenty of healthy snacks at work with me, things like fruit, crackers, granola bars, cut up fresh veggies. I was able to avoid eating a lot of high fat, high calorie snacks by planning ahead